4 Celebs on Lessons They’ve Learnt About Love

We had a chat with four celebs who gave us the scoop on some of the biggest lessons that they have learnt about love. 

It is that time of the year when we are bombarded by fickle definitions of what true love is, granted love is a subjective feeling so it’s best to agree to disagree on that one. However, it is always helpful to get a few tips from people who have a bit of experience in the areas of love and relationships.  We caught up with a few celebs to find out what their definition of love is and get some insight on some of the lessons that they have learnt. Who knows, maybe we could all gather some useful knowledge.

Thembisa Mdoda , actress and presenter of  Our Perfect Wedding.

Anele Mdoda
Your definition of love?

You can’t see it, you can’t touch it but you can feel it. You see the results that stem from it and you certainly see what happens to situations that lack it.

The biggest lesson you have learnt when it comes to love?

I have learnt so much, I could write a book. *Sigh*. The biggest lesson is to trust my instincts. Trust every feeling and choose your heart at every turn. I learnt that there’s nothing selfish about it because when you trust yourself and are truly happy, you are sure to make your love happy.


Do you have any regrets about decisions that you have made in past/present relationships, if so, how have you learnt from these mistakes?

Just two; 1. That I never put my heart and well being first . 2. I kept quiet when I was being hurt instead of being loved in a relationship.

LeAnne Dlamini, singer and entrepreneur.

LeAnne Dlamini
Your definition of love?

Love to me is the emotional and sometimes spiritual connection you have with someone. It is the ability to be real, open and honest with that person and despite all your flaws, you stick together, make it work and choose each other everyday. Now that is love.

What is the biggest lesson that you have learnt when it comes to love?

That it takes hard work. People don’t stay in love by chance. They stay in love and stay together because they want to, because they cannot live without one another. You have to choose to love each other everyday.

How has your perception of love changed over the years?

Love, loving and staying in love requires work but when it’s with the right person, it will be the most beautiful journey of your life. It’s not all butterflies and kisses but it’s beautiful.

Olwethu Leshabane, Mrs SA 2016 First Princess and Entrepreneur

Olwethu Leshabane

What does love mean to you?

My context in how I view my love between my husband and I. Love is childlike, it is forgiving and pure. It’s best friend like, there is no one else I can relate to in my silence and that can read between my lines and hear what I’m not saying. It’s sibling like, our love is so protective over each other no matter what. Love leaves you better than it finds you – no one leaves someone they help make better.

How has your definition of love affected the decisions that you make in your relationship and marriage?

I’m so much more forgiving, I love purely and without bounds. I’m protective of my marriage and my husband. I’ve allowed myself to constantly evolve and be better for him and more especially for me.

What is the biggest lesson you have learnt when it comes to love?

Love is a feeling and a decision to feel and act a particular way no matter the circumstance. You act in love and with love in all situations within marriage (PS. you cannot act on something you do not understand). When I proclaimed to love my husband, I made the decision to see him through everything in love because we’re both not perfect. But our love for each other is perfect if we keep to each other in compassion, truth, loyalty, patience, kindness and generosity.

What is the one lesson about love that you want to teach to your sons?

Never stop loving. People may hurt you, disappoint you, break your trust, lie to you etc. But never stop loving them. The only thing to do is to allow yourself to change how you love them. Love is a feeling, feelings change; feelings do not go away. Once you try doing away with a feeling like love, you open the door for fear, hatred and anger.
Perhaps you were too kind, change that. Perhaps you were too patient, change that. Perhaps you were too generous, change that. But never stop loving.

Candice Abrahams, Mrs SA and Mrs World 2016

Candice Abrahams

Image by Cathy Heaton

How would you describe love?

Love to me is the key daily emotions I use with the most important people in my life, my husband and kids… patience, understanding, loyalty and forgiveness. Learning from each other daily. For me its about honesty and caring for each others feelings, its also about investing time for your passions.

What is the biggest lesson that you have learnt when it comes to love?

To never give up on love, make love your foundation and build your relationship on it. I will never take my husband for granted.

What is the secret to having a strong and successful marriage?

There is no secret, every couple has their fair share of ups and downs, it’s how you deal with your ups and downs. My husband and I made a pact that we deal with our issues daily by always finding a solution. Having a ‘fix it’ kind of mind set before moving on, never being afraid to say sorry even if you not wrong, to reach that fix it moment, would you rather be right or happy? Its never easy but oh so worth it!

What is the one lesson about love that you want to teach to your children?

Love makes you happy, love makes you live longer, love gives you a healthy heart. Love what you do and do what you love. Do everything with love.